Parenting a Child with ADHD: RISE to the Occasion

by Jearilyn Singleton, Reach Therapist Intern

Has your child been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)? Feel like you’re not getting it “right” as a parent? Well, fret no longer. Help has arrived! If you can remember that all you have to do is RISE to the occasion -- focusing on routines, interests, simple rewards, and exercise; -- you will be able to see the sunshine in the midst of so many dark clouds. So, let’s break down what it means to RISE to the occasion:

Routine: It is important for children with ADHD to have a routine. Not only does a routine help keep you sane as a parent;, iIt helps children with ADHD learn to regulate. If they have a regimented schedule and know what to expect, it is easier for them to complete tasks and fulfill obligations. Sit down and create a routine or schedule with your child. Allowing them to get involved in the process is great and gives them a sense of control and ownership. Review expectations and remain consistent. Consistency is key when parenting a child with ADHD.

Interests: Know what your children are interested in and get interested in it too! I think it’s funny how people claim children with ADHD can’t sit still for long periods of time but they can sit in one spot and play a video game for hours! Children can focus when they are truly interested. Find out what positive and productive activities your children are interested in and encourage them to focus their attention on those interests. 

Simple rewards: Parents of children with ADHD often focus on the negative. Start finding the exceptions in your children’s behaviors and reward them when they do well! It doesn’t have to be an extravagant reward either. Maybe if they're able to complete their homework without getting distracted then they get an extra 10 minutes of television before bed. Small, simple rewards show children that you recognize that they are trying. It also makes them more aware and purposeful with their actions. Sounds like a win-win to me!

Exercise: Children with ADHD have tons of energy! Parents often report that they feel like their children are “bouncing off the walls.” What better way to channel this energy than through exercise? Encourage your children to put down the video games, cell phones, and toys and get moving. Working out can be fun! Play a game outside with your children (like basketball or jumping rope), ride bikes after dinner as a family, or just let them run around until they just can’t run any more. Not only is daily exercise healthy for you and your children, it helps release a lot of energy and can have a calming effect. 

If you can remember to implement these simple steps, you can RISE to the occasion every time! Not only will you feel more capable and in control as a parent, you will also find opportunities to bond with your children and help them channel their excess energy in a more positive manner. And, to all the parents of children without ADHD, you can use these simple steps too! Change the way you view and interact with your children. I challenge you to RISE to the occasion today!