How to be in Control of Your Life
I want what you want: Mastery over “me.” The key is the word “me.” Think about that with me. Think about any relationship problem you're having right now, as you read. Tell me if I'm right:
- Someone is trying to get you to do something you don't want to do.
- You're trying to get someone to do something they don't want to do.
- Both 1&2.
Tell me if I'm wrong. Really. In the comment section, tell me if you have a relationship problem that doesn't involve 1-3. Mine can be summed up nicely---by those three things. But when I only focus on controlling my life, both I and my loved ones are happier. You’ve probably experienced the same without knowing it. I’ll show you how.
Think about your best friend. When you think about him or her, what do you like about your relationship? I know what I like about my best friend. We like each other. Because we like each other, we talk every other week…of our own free will. I don’t make him call me, and he doesn’t make me call him.
In other words, in friendships, especially best friendships, we don’t usually attempt to control each other. But why is that? (Stay tuned for part 2.)
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