How to be in Control of Your Life
Olatunde Howard
I want what you want:
Mastery over “me.” The key is the word “me.” Think about that with me. Think about
any relationship problem you're having right now, as you read. Tell me if I'm
right:
- Someone is trying to get you to do
something you don't want to do.
- You're trying to get someone to do
something they don't want to do.
- Both 1&2.
Tell me if I'm wrong. Really.
In the comment section, tell me if you have a relationship problem that
doesn't involve 1-3. Mine can be summed up nicely---by those three
things. But when I only focus on controlling my life, both I and my
loved ones are happier. You’ve probably
experienced the same without knowing it.
I’ll show you how.
Think about your best friend. When you think about him or her, what
do you like about your relationship? I
know what I like about my best
friend. We like each other. Because we
like each other, we talk every other week…of our own free will. I don’t make him call me, and he doesn’t make
me call him.
In other words, in friendships,
especially best friendships, we don’t usually attempt to control each
other. But why is that? (Stay tuned for
part 2.)
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