How to be in Control of Your Life

How to be in Control of Your Life

Olatunde Howard

I want what you want:  Mastery over “me.”  The key is the word “me.”  Think about that with me.  Think about any relationship problem you're having right now, as you read. Tell me if I'm right:  

1. Someone is trying to get you to do something you don't want to do.
2. You're trying to get someone to do something they don't want to do.
3. Both 1&2.

Tell me if I'm wrong.  Really.  In the comment section, tell me if you have a relationship problem that doesn't involve 1-3.  Mine can be summed up nicely---by those three things.  But when I only focus on controlling my life, both I and my loved ones are happier.  You’ve probably experienced the same without knowing it.  I’ll show you how.

Think about your best friend.   When you think about him or her, what do you like about your relationship?  I know what I like about my best friend.  We like each other.  Because we like each other, we talk every other week…of our own free will.  I don’t make him call me, and he doesn’t make me call him. 

In other words, in friendships, especially best friendships, we don’t usually attempt to control each other.  But why is that?  (Stay tuned for part 2.)

Photo credit: https://flic.kr/p/Le8ZAc

Ready to Spring Forward?

by Laura Bryan, PhD, LMFT
Clinic Director

If you're like me, you're probably quite ready for this winter to be over! I can't remember the last time the South got this much snow, ice, sleet, and just GRAY. Here at Pfeiffer Institute Reach, we're going to encourage the new season to appear by hosting Spring Forward, a FREE workshop for couples, on Monday, March 10, from 6-8pm. Participants can be at any relationship stage -- dating, engaged, cohabiting, married, with or without children. The workshop will be an interactive and educational opportunity to learn about communication skills, trust, and sex! Childcare will be provided, and you will have the opportunity to schedule an appointment with a Therapist Intern to discuss what you learned about your relationship and how you can implement your new skills.

Please RSVP so we know how many people to prepare for. Call 919-941-2900 and tell us you're ready to Spring Forward!

Also remember that you should move your clocks ahead (spring forward!) this Sunday, March 9.